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Truth 'n Lies vs Honesty 'n Dishonesty

11/2/2011

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 "Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practise to deceive!"  ~Sir Walter Scott (1771-1832)
     Want to read more about him?  http://www.walterscott.lib.ed.ac.uk/  

"People who are brutally honest get more satisfaction out of the brutality than out of the honesty."
~Richard J. Needham
     I never gave much thought to being "brutally" honest ... I always felt that, brutally or not, honesty, is exactly that - telling the truth.  However, reading this quote this morning reminded me of times that I've been accused of being "brutally honest".  I never looked upon being brutally honest as a bad thing (although sometimes I've inadvertently hurt a person's feelings), as I never had ill intentions - whether we're talking truth or lies.  Some people lie to spare another's feelings (and usually call them "white lies", or "stretching the truth").  Reflecting now on the above quote, I guess there are people who are truthful, and "brutally" honest, with selfish or ill intentions.  I have been "truthful, to a fault", but I see that differently than lying to someone for self-satisfaction or just being mean, at heart.

"Truth is such a rare thing, it is delightful to tell it."  ~Emily Dickinson
     In my younger years, I found that when I told the truth, it was often questioned.  I found it easier to lie, since I wasn't believed when I did tell the truth.  That act of not believing me, taught me to lie.  It is easy to lie, but it's not easy to remember them, and keep them straight ... especially as the days, weeks, months, and years pass.  If you're a chronic liar, you might be in denial, but they will - eventually - catch up with you.  Now ... I would rather someone doesn't believe me, or chastise me for the truth, than to lie.  There's just no future in it, and a waste of time to have to remember them.  One lie begets another ... simple ... the domino theory, they will never stop - unless you stop the madness yourself, and fess up.  Tell the truth ...

"The cruelest lies are often told in silence."  ~Adlai Stevenson
     I see this in politics, and big business so much.  So often, it's "what we don't know" that could make a difference in what and how we believe in something, or someone.  I have to take a hit on this one, too, referring to a statement I made in an earlier blog this morning - those "things" we often "choose" not to share openly, or discuss.  However, having said that, I cannot imagine anything about my life or my past that I don't or haven't shared, would I consider "cruel" or would affect others in the universal scheme of things. 

"A little inaccuracy sometimes saves tons of explanation."  ~Saki
     True, it can, but does that "justify" it though?

"I can still lie, but I choose not to anymore.  If I can't tell the truth, I'll avoid it, but won't lie."  ~nr lenz
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VIcki
11/6/2011 08:54:57

I have a hard time lying too. I want to face it and get it over with. It is more like being true to yourself.
When I was younger, I would lie to my mother, mainly because I didn't want to hear her yell at me. She would help me with my pages and pages of math, she would get mad at me if I didn't "get it", so I would just say "okay, I get it" I would rather lie than listen to her. I was lying, but not to be mean. It actually hurt me more in the long run. I still hate math today. Is lying "typical" when you are a teenager. I would lie about where I went. Anyway, that is my take on lying. I like reading your blogs and try better about making comments.

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Nancy
11/6/2011 10:04:33

Vicki, I love when you make comments back to me. I was hoping to get more of this kind of dialoge with my friends. Again, thanks so much! *smile* Isn't it a shame when a child (or teenager) finds lying to be the "way out" of something because of how the adult intimidates or tries to shame the child into submission (for whatever reason), usually a selfish motive it seems to me. You made a real good point - being "true to yourself" ... just like what you and I went through initially. I'm so thankful that you and I were "honest and truthful" to get where we are now. Lying is kind of like having an affair ... there's just "no future in it", not for anyone involved. I remember lying about places I went, and people I hung around with - knowing mom wouldn't like it.

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