I called a vendor about an item that was marked as shipped, but we did not receive. She advised me that they would ship it, at no cost, and was fumbling for the words to tell me things would then be fine. I interjected and said to her, "Then everything will be copasetic, as they say." Ironically, I have not used that term, in years, though it used to be a favorite one. She fell silent for a moment. She lost a brother (special, sweet is how she described him) to the miserable beast of cancer. That expression was a favorite of his; an expression he often used. She thanked me for using that expression. She felt that was a "sign" and that her brother is looking down on her. I thanked her, for letting me be the messenger! It was one of those 'warm 'n fuzzy' moments.
Well, I lost this (tsk, tsk) ... let me see if I can re-create it. After losing a loved one, you may be surprised at the things that often "trigger" memories of them. Triggers can be an aroma or fragrance, someone's voice, their laughter, a phrase, a song, a word or expression - even things as obscure as the way someone walks, how they dress or wear their hair, a painting, a knick knack - just something familiar that pulls your heartstrings. That happened to me today, with a vendor.
I called a vendor about an item that was marked as shipped, but we did not receive. She advised me that they would ship it, at no cost, and was fumbling for the words to tell me things would then be fine. I interjected and said to her, "Then everything will be copasetic, as they say." Ironically, I have not used that term, in years, though it used to be a favorite one. She fell silent for a moment. She lost a brother (special, sweet is how she described him) to the miserable beast of cancer. That expression was a favorite of his; an expression he often used. She thanked me for using that expression. She felt that was a "sign" and that her brother is looking down on her. I thanked her, for letting me be the messenger! It was one of those 'warm 'n fuzzy' moments.
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Vicki
10/23/2011 13:51:10
Thanks for sharing this story. It is so true, isn't it. But those "feelings" don't happen until you loose someone. The smell of Aqua Velva after shave (remember?)I think they still sell it. That smell reminds me of my dad and it is always a pleasant memory.
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Nancy
10/23/2011 14:25:26
Vicki, I want to thank YOU for sharing your stories, about your father and mother. I have so many situations that come to mind, with this sort of thing. I love the lard story, it made me smile ... did you ever explain or share that with the people at the store, what had happened? ... that's one of those "forever" memories ... heart-to-heart hugs ...
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